I have long been known by my friends and the people I work with as some kind of strange superwomen. Superwoman I am most definitely not, if anything that’s my girlfriend, who has the ability to scrub the entire flat, walk the dog twice, do the food shopping, make dinner and bake a cake in the same day as doing an 8hr shift, (I know how lucky I am).
However I often have to get up very early in the morning to train clients and then I make my way to my retail job for another 9hr shift, giving me a grand total of a 15hr working day! Between doing this I train myself, take dance classes and go to auditions as well as sometimes teaching dance. This time last year I was consistently working 7 days a week, doing 3 part time jobs as well as still having to find time to get to auditions.
One of the main questions I was asked during this time was “How do you do it?” “How do you stay motivated to get up every single day?” I still get asked this question daily and i’m never quite sure how to answer, I always assumed it was just something that was built in me, an innate drive.
I have taken some time to think about these questions to try and figure out what it is that motivates me and if this is something that can be learnt, so here it is …
1. Find your motivation
I know that in a perfect world we would all be doing the jobs that we were born to do every day, with everyone following their passions and feeling inspired and joyous about going to work each day. However unfortunately this is not the case, so when you are in the job that you don’t particularly enjoy or isn’t the thing that you want to be doing, you have to find your motivation somewhere else. This leads me to number 2 …
2. Don’t use money to motivate you!!!
My Dad is an incredible example of this, he has been working in direct sales for the past 18 years, earning a 100% commission based salary. This means that he can often go out and work a 10-14hr day and earn £0, yet he still comes home with a smile on his face as if he has earned £5000, not only that he will still be motivated to wake up the next day and do it all over again. The key to my Dad’s daily motivation??
He has never focused on the monetary amount he could earn, but instead focused on things he could do for his family. This he did most recently when taking my Mum to Goa. This holiday was a prize provided by the company for the top sales people, as part of the trip they would get to ride elephants. Elephants are my Mum’s favourite animal (it’s a slight obsession) and riding one has always been at the very top of her bucket list. This was my Dad’s motivation over the next year, he said to himself, ‘I WILL TAKE JEN TO RIDE THE ELEPHANTS” and he lived with that mantra everyday.
3. Use the thing you don’t like to motivate you.
I recently watched a youtube video by the great Casey Neistat, if you are familiar with Casey’s videos then you will know he is the King of motivation. In this video Casey talks about the problem with being too comfortable in the jobs/life situations that we don’t like. We often find ourselves in places that we didn’t expect to be in e.g. job, home, etc because we started there as a brief stop but then that stop became comfortable and before we knew it we had been there 2/3/4 years before realising this isn’t where we wanted to be. Casey says in order to find your motivation to do what you want to do, what your passionate about, you need to make yourself uncomfortable. This will give you the motivation to strive for what you really want. If your in a situation where you don’t know what you want to do, then do something you hate! This way you will spend every moment fixating on what it is you want to be doing.
4. Strive to be the best.
This is something I have always tried to do, in many aspects and probably more so at the times when I am feeling most unmotivated. When I have found myself in a job that I don’t enjoy then I have given myself personal goals to be the best at that job. It’s so easy to dislike something and as a result do it badly all this does is create a negative cycle, so break that cycle and think differently. Be the best and rewards will come, who knows you may even find a talent you never knew you had.
5. Take a look back and say ‘Well Done!”.
It is so easy to spend time focusing on what we want to achieve and how far we are away from it at that moment, but the thing I am most guilty of is not recognising how far I have come. This can be the biggest motivator, that moment when you stop and take a moment to realise everything you have already achieved. When I came home from working on cruise ships I had all these big goals and after the first year I was feeling like I hadn’t reached any of them, but then I stopped looked back… I had actually achieved so much, from flying to LA and training with the incredible Tracy Anderson to being promoted at my job to being able to afford living in London. I had worked so hard and it was making a difference, I just had to take the time to see it, this became my motivation.
These are just a few of the methods I use to keep myself going on those 7am mornings and 9:30pm finishes, but perhaps more then anything my main motivator is my girlfriend Karen and my little puppy Ted, it’s a bit mushy (I know), but its the truth.
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