There comes a time in all our lives when we have to make a big decision. It can be career based, personal or even relationship, but no mater what the decision is, there are always complications due to facts and emotions that can make our decisions easier or harder. I have had many big decisions to make over the years that have effected my life massively, whilst I wasn’t always sure of the outcome, I have never regretted the choice I made.
Recently a few different people have approached me to ask advise in decisions they are making and I am also in the process of making a big decision of my own, so I thought I would analyse all the elements that effect us when doing this to see if I could help them and myself.
Where are you now?
Before you make any big decision, you have to assess where you are in your current situation. For example if it’s a career decision you are making then look at what you have achieved up to this point. Are your achievements in line with your overall goals, if so have you reached the peak of the mountain in your current situation or is there more to get out of it. Is this decision part of taking you on to the next step of what you ultimately want to achieve.
What created this decision?
This seems a bit of a random question, but I am a firm believer that we attract everything to ourselves and therefore any new opportunity was created by you. This could be for a few different reasons, perhaps you are unhappy in your current situation and have been subconsciously seeking something new. Or maybe you have been working towards something and now a new opportunity has presented itself, either way this decision is there for a reason, why?
What could you achieve?
When making any decision its more often then not because the other option is a new road, thats why it’s so scary, you are taking the road less travelled and with that comes huge risk. However where there is great risk, there is great opportunity. What is it that you can achieve by doing this? Write down a list of goals or scenarios of where you could be if you were to embrace this new opportunity.
What do the people around you think?
This one I write with an air of caution, as I don’t think you should be dictated by the opinions of others, however it is human nature to seek advice and approval from our peers, I have literally spent hours on the phone to my Dad seeking his advise from relationships to purchases. If you have a few trusted friends or colleagues you can go to then use them! It’s always great to have an outside perspective, even if its just to reinforce the choice you have made.
Are you happy?
I think this is the most important question to ask yourself as being unhappy in just one aspect of your life has the ability to negatively effect all aspects of your life. It’s what is known as the downward spiral, if you let the bad get to you it can really eat away at your enthusiasm for the good things, it also makes you a bit miserable to be around. If this new prospect will make you happier then maybe it’s not so scary after all.
After asking yourself all these questions I think that ultimately the answer in a lot of cases will be to leap, have faith and trust that whatever decision you make is the right one for you. When you have made your decision stick with it, of course there will inevitably be challenges but nothing worth having ever came easy.